Today’s society is ever changing.

We are more acceptable to the things that were not even heard of many years ago.

From the time women were able to vote, to homosexuals in the military (don’t ask, don’t tell) to same sex marriages or unions in certain states.

Today’s question comes from a person who is a little distraught about what to do about the wedding. Here is the question:

Dear Ms Informed:
OK, who do I make mad: My parents or my brother? My gay brother will be bringing his husband to my wedding and my mother is insisting we introduce him as a friend, or he can't come. My brother says that's fine for her, but he will NOT be lying about it and WILL be honest about it to people that ask (it's no secret he's gay). They're waiting for me for the final decision - what's a good diplomatic decision?

Making Someone Mad

Dear Making Someone Mad,

Ok first off let me say that I am a VERY open minded person.

You cannot help who you fall in love with, so I think love is grand and who cares what other people think. With this being said, let’s dive right onto this controversial, probably-gonna-cause-problems situation.

Let’s think about this, I DO know that mother is probably investing money into this glorious wedding, and I’m sure you are concerned about making her happy.

But keep this in mind: IT IS YOUR WEDDING!!

It is up to you to have a hand in every essential part of it – from what type of flowers, to the cake, to the dress, to who you invite.

This is your BROTHER, your blood relative. I can completely understand where your mother is coming from – IF it was a distant relative or if it were someone you rarely see, but this is family; direct attachment, see all the time, uncle to your future child relative.

Being that he is openly gay and has a husband proves that he doesn’t care what other think. Just because your mother has a problem with it doesn’t mean that others will as well.

I think you should let him introduce who his husband is as….his husband.

Ask your mother how would she feel if she could go to a VERY nice party but had to introduce her husband as a ‘friend’ because they didn’t like the fact she was heterosexual? When the tables are turned, it is looked at in a completely different way. And if you want to mess with your mom, have your brother’s husband wear something stereotypically gayish! I would do it…lol.

Now, before people jump on the ‘let’s hate Ms Informed’ bandwagon, let’s think for a minute. I know that it’s very difficult to accept change. We all do not like the word change nor do with like to go through it.

I feel that change is inevitable and is going to happen. There are a MILLION things that change that we do not like.

I do not like the fact I had to change my style of toothpaste to compromise with my husband. I don’t like I had to change my nail place because my favorite guy is no longer there.

Just because this is different doesn’t mean it is wrong or not able to be accepted. It’s difficult to sit here writing and say I think it’s OK to keep people from loving who they love.

It’s difficult because it’s not right in MY eyes.

This is MY opinion, and I know there are different opinions and you are entitled to yours.

This is just mine.

Gay marriages are going mainstream- here cartoon icon Homer Simpson performs a same-sex marriage union on the hit Fox animated series.

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